Media Hype I ain’t buying!

I received the new issue of More magazine yesterday – I don’t know about you – but I am SICK and TIRED of hearing about how I should “reinvent” myself.  This particular cover boasted 74 ways I could do it!  Now, first of all, the concept of “re” doing anything, means to me that there is something wrong with the original!  Well, I’m here to SAY IT AIN’T SO! 

I think the most important thing about aging gracefully and enjoying mid-life is accepting yourself and being happy with what you’ve got!  Now I’m not suggesting there should be no change or no challenges in your life – quite the contrary.  I’m just saying there is no NEED to do a complete overhaul and “reinvent” yourself.  I think it’s just a catch phrase that sells magazines – because a lot of women have that low self-esteem thing going on.  Shame on them for playing to that!

And ANOTHER thing that the media drives me CRAZY with is that CONSTANT barrage of Before and After weight loss blitz.  Is it not everywhere?  On magazine covers, on TV,  in ads, all over the internet!  There’s even an ENTIRE TV show about fat loss!  I am so sick of looking at FAT people who have lost weight and think I should care – that I could scream!  I DON’T CARE that you were once fat and now you’re not.  Good for you – but I REALLY don’t care!  And if I were you?  I wouldn’t be putting it out there for all the world to see how I disrespected myself and my body and let it get that far out of control!  Shame on you!

Maybe, you argue, it is motivating for some people to see that others have lost weight, and that they can too, if they do the same thing.  Well, why should I think that?  Just because someone else does something worthwhile, I think I can or should be able to do it too?  Well that’s just kind of silly if you think about it.  Some people can play the piano, or fix a sink or run a marathon – but that doesn’t make me want to do it too.  I appreciate that they can do it – but it doesn’t motivate me to do it.  JUST because they did!  What motivates me is from INSIDE – not what I see outside. 

So I’d really like for all the fatties to PLEASE sit down!  I’m tired of looking at their excessiveness – and think the media revering it like this – is really a negative message afterall.  Let’s stop as a culture obsessing over weight and obsessing over age – and just get back to a balance of solid core values.  The media is soooooo good at sensationalizing by harping on the same thing over and over.  It sends a subliminal message about something … like you SHOULD care!

It’s like one magazine or TV news editor must “preview” what their competitor is doing for that month, or day or session – and feel they have to do it too – or they will lose audience.  Be original for God’s sakes!  And don’t be afraid to be different!  I’m not.  I DON’T watch reality TV at all!  I don’t watch talk shows or cooking shows or infomercials or sitcoms or dramas based on sex.  And I HATE to go to the movies and JUST see violent special effects.  And I KNOW I’m not alone!  There have to be normal people, like myself, out there who just like good a good story, or want to laugh at something that’s honestly funny, and not just inappropriate. 

O.K. so now I’ve ranted … how did this all start anyway?  And what’s my point!  LOL I love blogging … Now that I told you how I feel, tell me how you do … and comment!

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My First Time – Energizing through Massage

My very dear friend Susan, who owns the fabulous Eco Day Lux Spa in Yardley, PA, The Skin Studio @ www.theskinstudio.org, was kind enough to grant me a complimentary massage for mentioning her in one of my blogs a while back.  So … I went, for my very first massage!   Yes, it’s true, it was my first time!  I know that’s hard to believe, for as much as I indulge myself in other ways, NOT to have ever had a massage … is well, just unenlightened!  So, I was thrilled to have the opportunity.  Then of course, immediately worried … will I have to get … naked?

I’m sure more people have that worry than care to admit!  But I was lucky to immediately be put at ease by Linda Crocker, the very skilled and equally friendly spa therapist at the Skin Studio.  She’s been practicing 7 years and teaching 4 of them, so I’m sure she’s seen it all.  Anyway, Linda was also kind enough to explain some of the mystery of what she was doing to me.  This also helped.  The essential oil massage is what I opted for, but you can also get a warm stone massage, sports massage or swedish massage, their signature, with or without deep tissue work. 

I’m not going to pretend I’m an expert on Aromatherapy, because it’s a very involved and intriguing science.  If you want to learn about it, a good place to start is @ http://www.aromaweb.com/articles/wharoma.asp.  But in simple terms it’s pretty much the way a synergistic blend of essential oils work together, to address a specific problem.   The problem could be  inflammation, respiratory, emotional, or stress, and the blend of oils is customized for each individual client.  90% of the people who come to a spa, request relief from emotional or physical (or both) stress and desire a “calming” blend of oils.  Linda says she likes to use chamomile, geranium and lavender to relax and that generally 98% of men and 75% of women fall asleep during her sessions. (not me though LOL).   Someone may also come in desiring relief from a cough, and in this case she may mix together a tea tree oil (a natural antiseptic antibiotic) wintergreen and eucalyptus.   Now that’s kind of cool, and in my opinion a way better way of dealing with a cold than prescription medicine or over the counter drugs. 

Essential oils are extracts from trees, plants or flowers and work in many different ways to achieve the desired results.  The oils are absorbed through the skin, and believe it or not, the feet absorb the fastest.   They are also inhaled through the olfactory senses and work with the limbic system in the brain to calm the hormones and emotions.   The oils can last in your body for up to one month after the treatment.  Different people can react differently to each oil treatment.  Some can walk away completely relaxed and ready for bed, while others may be completely renewed, energized and ready to dance!  The Skin Studio only works with organic oils because Linda tells me “they offer a stronger energy.”

Massage has become somewhat trendy these days, along with the yoga craze.  Definitely, not a bad thing.  One of my best friends is addicted to them, right along with her husband.  They go regularly, together.  I think that’s really cool.  Sometimes they treat themselves and make a weekend out of it by checking into a luxury hotel for the night.  They do the spa, then dinner, then drinks, then … well … you figure it out!  And sometimes, she says, they just do a no frills, inexpensive franchise massage.  You can find one near you @ http://www.massageenvy.com/locations.aspx.  Point is … they do it … and so should you.  At least TRY it!  I did … and I liked it!  Next time maybe I’ll even … get naked!

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Take a Hint

Some helpful hints:

1.  Use a scrub each time you shower – if you run out or don’t want to spend the extra change – use sugar.   Even if you don’t want to use it on your entire body – hit the heels, knees and elbows each time.

2.  When washing or moisturizing our face – always use an upward motion.  Imagine all the years of literally pulling your skin down if you don’t.

3.  When touching your eye area – use the ring finger.  It has the least amount of pressure – even more so than the pinky, believe it or not.

4.  Use a darker eye shadow with a bit of water and a skinny brush for an eye liner – instead of a liquid eye liner (God forbid) or a pencil.  At our age – the two latter choices are just a bit too harsh.

5.  Eat protein at every meal.  It’s more filling and builds muscle.

6.  Use weight resistance AND cardio to burn fat.  Once you turn some of that fat to muscle, the muscle continues to burn calories and metabolize even when you’re not working out.  Besides, variety keeps it interesting and you’re more likely to stick with a workout if you enjoy it.

7.  Sleep face up.  All those lines in your face and decollete that go away during the morning – find their way back years later if you continue to encourage them.

8.  Comb your hair IN the shower – or shortly afterwards, while it is still wet.  If  you wait until it’s dry, there will be many more tangles and breakage.  Buy the widest toothed comb you can find.

9.  Use taupe colored eyebrow pencil if you are light in complexion.  Your eyebrows do so much to frame your face, and as you age, they lose thickness (and arch) naturally, so may need to be redefined.

10.  FLIRT – it feels good and isn’t cheating.  LOL

Add comment January 12, 2010 Barbara Button
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The Chicken or the Egg?

I don’t know about you … but if I don’t feel good, I don’t look good.  And how I look makes a huge difference on how I feel.  And if I feel great … then … You get the idea.  So … which comes first?  I don’t know … but how a woman looks is all tied up in her self-image.  Some women more than others … and men … not so much.  Lucky them.  The thing is though – there are so many little things you can do to make yourself look (and then feel) better.

When I was younger a fabulous gay friend told me something I’m about to share – of course then I didn’t take note … because THEN I just thought he was, well … gay.  But NOW?  I think he’s, well … brilliant!  He told me to use SIDE lights on the mirror in the bathroom.  LOL  Really! I’m not kidding.  If you don’t have them – get them!

What’s the first thing you do every morning???? Get up and brush your teeth – RIGHT?  So to do that, you have to look in the mirror.  That ’s the first of MANY times you’ll do that during the day.  So – why NOT make the experience as pleasant as possible?  SIDE light the mirror.  It HELPS.  My God, I don’t know about you – but when I catch a glimpse of my face in one of those overhead, bright or flourescent lights – it can be freakin’ frightening!  When I get ready for my day in the morning – I  honestly LIKE looking in my mirror.  So I take my time moisturizing, applying my make-up and fixing my hair.   Hence, I look better.   I would NEVER do the same in my son’s bathroom =  overhead bright light. 

Another thing that same good-looking gay man told me … whiten your teeth.  Seriously – how simple is that today?  Of course when he told me that, it involved a $600 dental procedure – but NOW – it’s child’s play purchased from the grocery store for under fifty.

I love Diane Sawyer.  I’d like to have her to my house  for dinner.  AND I think she’s beautiful.  But if you are a Good Morning America (and now a World News Tonight) fan, you’ll notice she looks different when she’s in front of the camera, being shot through a screened lens, and when she’s on location interviewing.  She looks way better when they take the time to soften the lighting!  So … do THAT for yourself!

You may think I sound vain … maybe I am (a little, LOL) but why not?  When you look better, then you feel better!  When you feel better, then you want to do more things!  And when you do more things, LIFE is more interesting and you are ENERGIZED!  So – why NOT begin the cycle by looking better.   Especially if it’s as simple as changing the lights in your own bathroom.   How EASY is that?

So … mirror, mirror on the wall ….

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You Do or You Don’t

New Year’s Resolutions are a way of setting goals and re-energizing yourself at the onset of a brand new year!

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The Hairy Truth

A surprising recommendation of a natural conditioner for dried out locks!

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Passionate Old Men

Finding your passion can re-energize your life! Here’s why and how.

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Butt Butt Butts

If your knees hurt or your butt sags (even just a little), read this!

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Bragging Rights!

Confidence is oftentimes the sexiest thing about a woman. And by the time you’ve reached Middle-age, you’ve had the time to aquire it, perfect it and enjoy it. Go ahead … brag a little … you deserve it!

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Keep it in Your Pants!

I’m truly not inerested in someone else’s indiscretions and poor choices in life. Why should I be? It doesn’t effect or enrich my life in any way, nor does it teach me anything or motivate me. But yet, everywhere I look it is in the news. Why is the public so obsessed with adultery and not concerned with other more important transgressions of values.

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